Respect yourself and your children will respect you.
The most important value you will ever teach your children is: to respect their parents। start by first respecting your children. If they don’t feel treated like a human being, then their cooperation will be in short supply. First, you show them respect. Second, you teach them to respect you. Let’s have a look at these situations one by one: 1. Are the kids complaining about the food? you spent many hours on the job, earning the money to pay for the food that you prepared Enough is enough! You did your part of the deal, now it’s up to them. Teach your children to say “thank you” for every meal. If they have no “thank you” on offer but only muster a “bwerk,” then you are not making dinner for at least two days! God knows they will be very grateful when they finally get one on the third day! Never continue delivering a service that is not appreciated.
2. Are the kids insulting you just because you’re ten minutes late when picking them up from the gym? Then stop picking them up from the gym for a few times! They will learn to appreciate what you are doing for them. you are worthy of respect! Show them what it means to be a person who respects himself. Respect yourself and others will respect you. 3. Are the kids complaining that “there is nothing to eat” in the house, Okay, here’s what you do: stop going to the grocery store for a while. That way the kids will have to first finish all the food in the fridge and in the cupboards Then comes the next phase where there really is “nothing” left in the cupboards. Now is the time to go to the grocery store, They will feel like there’s “so much to eat,” while in fact there’s less food than when they were complaining there was “nothing to eat.” 4. Are the kids putting tons of ketchup on their food, continuously ignoring your warnings to be more economical and eat healthier? Stop arguing about it, for that doesn’t work. Instead, stop buying ketchup all the time! For example, buy one bottle of ketchup per month and clearly tell your children that they’ll have to do with this one bottle for the whole month.
5. Do your children go on leaving their shoes all around the house? Tell them this will be the last warning, and that from now on, any shoes found scattered around will be “launched” into the back yard. And then, stick to your promise! Believe me, I had to do this only once! Once your children know that you will do as you say, then you won’t have to do it. They will respect your word! 6. Are your children’s rooms a mess? You want the mess to be cleaned up? Don’t do it yourself! Your teenagers should clean up their own mess! So tell them that they have to clean up their room before dinner on Saturday. That way you are giving them plenty of freedom to chose their own timing. Come Saturday evening dinnertime, go check if the room is tidy. If not, then there is no dinner for that child. Be consistent and do as you say. Do you really think the kids didn’t understand what you were saying? If you have said something two times, then that’s enough. After the second time, you should ACT and not TALK.
The most important value you will ever teach your children is: to respect their parents। start by first respecting your children. If they don’t feel treated like a human being, then their cooperation will be in short supply. First, you show them respect. Second, you teach them to respect you. Let’s have a look at these situations one by one: 1. Are the kids complaining about the food? you spent many hours on the job, earning the money to pay for the food that you prepared Enough is enough! You did your part of the deal, now it’s up to them. Teach your children to say “thank you” for every meal. If they have no “thank you” on offer but only muster a “bwerk,” then you are not making dinner for at least two days! God knows they will be very grateful when they finally get one on the third day! Never continue delivering a service that is not appreciated.
2. Are the kids insulting you just because you’re ten minutes late when picking them up from the gym? Then stop picking them up from the gym for a few times! They will learn to appreciate what you are doing for them. you are worthy of respect! Show them what it means to be a person who respects himself. Respect yourself and others will respect you. 3. Are the kids complaining that “there is nothing to eat” in the house, Okay, here’s what you do: stop going to the grocery store for a while. That way the kids will have to first finish all the food in the fridge and in the cupboards Then comes the next phase where there really is “nothing” left in the cupboards. Now is the time to go to the grocery store, They will feel like there’s “so much to eat,” while in fact there’s less food than when they were complaining there was “nothing to eat.” 4. Are the kids putting tons of ketchup on their food, continuously ignoring your warnings to be more economical and eat healthier? Stop arguing about it, for that doesn’t work. Instead, stop buying ketchup all the time! For example, buy one bottle of ketchup per month and clearly tell your children that they’ll have to do with this one bottle for the whole month.
5. Do your children go on leaving their shoes all around the house? Tell them this will be the last warning, and that from now on, any shoes found scattered around will be “launched” into the back yard. And then, stick to your promise! Believe me, I had to do this only once! Once your children know that you will do as you say, then you won’t have to do it. They will respect your word! 6. Are your children’s rooms a mess? You want the mess to be cleaned up? Don’t do it yourself! Your teenagers should clean up their own mess! So tell them that they have to clean up their room before dinner on Saturday. That way you are giving them plenty of freedom to chose their own timing. Come Saturday evening dinnertime, go check if the room is tidy. If not, then there is no dinner for that child. Be consistent and do as you say. Do you really think the kids didn’t understand what you were saying? If you have said something two times, then that’s enough. After the second time, you should ACT and not TALK.
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